I recently read an article where the writer claimed that it is perfectly okay to be angry at God. “God understands,” he concluded, “He can handle it.” Although it is certainly true that God understands how we feel and that He is perfectly capable of handling our emotions, that doesn’t mean that being mad at Him is ever right – or even “okay”.
To properly evaluate the writer’s assertion, we need to go back to what Scripture teaches about anger. Here are but a few examples: “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered” (Proverbs 22:24), “Human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires” (James 1:20), “But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips” (Colossians 3:8), “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret – it leads only to evil” (Psalm 37:8-9), “But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment” (Matthew 5:22).
When you study the Bible, you’ll find that it clearly teaches that anger is a vice, not a virtue. That is, with one exception: There is something we refer to as righteous indignation, and this is a sentiment that God actually commends. Righteous indignation is what Jesus exhibited when He furiously turned over the tables of the money changers in the temple (Matthew 21:12-13).
So what was it that made this expression of anger righteous? What made it righteous was that Jesus was defending His Father’s glory – in other words, it was justified anger. God’s good Name and reputation was at stake, and Jesus took a stand for what is right and just and ethical. It was for the same reason He’d so often express anger over the hypocritical actions of the pharisees. This is not vice, but virtue.
Here’s how this applies to you and I: Anger is sinful unless our anger is directed toward what angers God Himself, namely those things that the Bible calls sin. As the moral lawgiver of the universe God gets to determine what is right and wrong, and if the things that make Him angry anger us – lying, stealing, murder, child abuse, rape, sexual sins, abortion, social injustice, etc, etc – then, our anger is justified and righteous because we are agreeing with God and His standards.
Now, let’s apply this as we try to determine whether it is ever “okay” to be mad at God. Question: Is anger directed toward God ever justified? In other words, has He ever done anything that was not perfectly good? Is being angry with God ever caused by some sin that God has committed?
The answer, of course, is no. Everything God does is right, fair, and absolutely just.
The inevitable conclusion we reach, then, is this: Since being mad at God is never justified, it will never qualify as righteous indignation, and therefore it is always wrong. Yes, God understands. Yes, God can handle it. But it is still sin. If we find ourselves being angry with the One who knit us together in our mother’s womb, loved us when we were His enemies, sent His only Son to die for us, and breathed life back into our dying souls, we need to confess, repent, and ask for God’s help to put away our anger.
This is the correct response – even in the deepest valley and in our darkest hour. Because no matter what we’re dealing with in life, God, my friend, is still GOOD.
It’s important to remember to add the follow-on verses when quoting Scripture. Proverbs 22:24-25: “Don’t make friends with a hot tempered man and do not associate with someone who sis easily angered,(25) or you may learn his ways and find yourself caught in a trap.” This frames it in proper context and does not detract from the point you are making. Thanks for sharing
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Absolutely, Bruce. Bad company corrupts good character.
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I once met a woman in the ministry who shared her testimony how God spoke to her husband and her to quit work and stay home to pray for people, and that He would provide for their needs. When she found out she was pregnant and the funds didn’t come in to pay for the rent, she tells how she shook her fist at God and said, “If I have this baby on the street, I will never serve you again.”
According to this story, the funds began to come in. She sure showed God who’s boss. How ridiculous! Her message was the same: “God understands, He knows what you’re thinking anyway so you might as well express it.”
He is almighty God! He is worthy of all honor, all glory. In Job chapters 40 and 41 we see how The Lord responded to Job when he got a little carried away defending himself and his own righteousness. All Job could do was put his hand over his mouth and repent. I would never shake my fist and raise my voice at my earthly father, who even at times may have justified my anger… but he deserved my respect. How much more does my Heavenly Father deserve my respect if my anger (like Job’s) cannot be justified by my lack of understanding.
Thanks for sharing, Lena.
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Thanks so much for sharing that story, Sandra. Yes, Job is the perfect example of how to respond (and not respond) in the midst of a struggle. At the end of the book of Job we see that even though God didn’t explain to him WHY He put him through these trials, He helped Job get a much better understanding of His character. Job came to trust God in a way he hadn’t trusted Him before. Bottom line: We may not understand God’s purposes but we can know that everything He does is good and just, and that’s the truth we need to stand on.
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I have heard the argument before…said that it is okay to express our feelings with God, since He is the One that gave us the feelings and God would not want us to bottle up those feelings inside. This idea of expression is disgusting, because some individuals let it fall under the umbrella as “all things are lawful for me” and so I choose to have freedom of expression…and that pointed at God. As if God ever did anyone wrong or given someone a bad wrap? God is a debtor to no one! Its NEVER God who lets us down, but it is us who let ourselves down…time after time again. Listen to what Romans 3:4, ” …let God be true but every man a liar!” That pretty much puts it in perspective! There is a God and I am not Him! I understand that His ways are not ways and His ways are beyond finding out. How can I ever be angry with a perfect God who is the Master of everything, the Potter of my life, the Molder, the Shaper, my everything. He has never let me down…my life is His life and free to do with it as He chooses. Remember, if we put our trust and faith in Jesus, than He owns us, for we have been bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:20).
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Thanks, Robert! I couldn’t have phrased it any better myself.
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